If you have read any of my other posts, then you know my struggle to stay consistent with these. I join all of humanity that struggles with being 100% with behavior change. Once again I’m under 100%. Human.

Enough of that. I’d like to address children and divorce. Oh boy. Sooo many directions we could go with this one. In the essence of time, this ramble will be quick, to the point, and specific. Here comes the rocket science… If parents who are divorced cannot figure out how to communicate on a business level, their sweet kids will quickly learn the wonderful art of manipulation. And yes, they will manipulate both parents. The thing about manipulation is that when you’re getting manipulated, most of the time you are unaware of it, or at best you’re in a place that you don’t mind.

Communicating with an ex spouse can feel impossible. It’s like trying to light a match in the wind. Just when you think you’ve got it figured out… However, there are ways to talk with one another about the “business” of parenting without allowing the emotion to guide your decision making. Texting, emails, etc. all allow you to think before sending and gather yourself before replying (no matter how unreasonable the other parent is being)(…because I’m sure it’s not you)

As I am fully aware, no one is 100%. Expecting perfect communication is ridiculous. But let’s stay in the 80% range. It’s still a B.